I have long been an advocate of Brené Brown's work on vulnerability and courage. I've read her countless books and watched her brilliant Netflix documentary 'The Call to Courage'.
Throughout my years as a therapist, I've seen clients describe the great lengths they go to to not offend somebody, to be perceived (or not perceived) in a certain way, or to maintain difficult relationships with partners, family members, or friends. They say yes when they want to say no, going along with the consensus. The list is endless. But ultimately, this results in them not living in line with their core values. This can often lead to feeling distressed, overthinking, and feeling low or anxious about the future or future events.
Brené's documentary perfectly describes the bravery and vulnerability it takes to live in line with our values. Research tells us that those who learn how to do this and establish better boundaries with people are often much happier.
Research tells us that those who learn how to do this and establish better boundaries with people are often much happier
Their internal dialogue shifts towards expecting to be treated fairly. In reality, this leads to them making courageous choices: ending difficult relationships, saying no, leaving unfulfilling jobs, asking for help, or seeking therapy. The eventual payoff can be huge.
I have helped many clients work on having 'courage over comfort', which has led to the peace that then follows in their lives. If this resonates with you and you're struggling to set boundaries or make difficult changes, let's work together on building the courage to live more authentically. Book a free 15-minuten call to learn more about how I can help.